How are you? Often how I start e-mails. I’m genuinely interested in hearing about how you are, what life is like and what you’ve been up to. It always interesting to hear about activities outside of my area of interest.
E-mail is the primary form of communication that I use. For me its easily accessible, its convenient and delivery is quick. I can write up an e-mail while I’m doing something else, while I’m on the train. Pretty much anywhere that I have some idle time. Getting replies to e-mails sometimes bugs me. I try to be timely when responding to e-mail and if a lengthy response is in order and I don’t have time, I at least acknowledge the e-mail and let them know I will answer more thoroughly at a later time. I see that as a courtesy that I extend to people I correspond with.
So when there are no responses to e-mails, the mind wanders as to why. Are they ok? Has something happened? Are they really busy? Have they broken off contact?
Perhaps I’m over thinking the whole thing. I value the few friendships I have and when the lines of communication falter I like to understand why and if I can help, I will try to.
I know some people who just never seem to get around to writing e-mail, although when you happen to speak to them; often a case of being to busy and I’ll get around to it are fairly common answers.
Others drop off. For whatever reason, they’ve decided to no longer correspond. The whole thing seems a bit up in the air, I’m left at a loss as to why. One might reason its none of my business, also true. For a friendship to just stop cold, with no reason or explanation just seems wrong to me.
I really don’t know or have any answers. I’ve lost touch with a few people, I’ve tried reaching out via e-mail and other methods where possible to get in touch, yet nothing. Being left hanging is a really crappy feeling to process, more so if your inclined to analytical thought processes. It’s going to be a long night.