No doubt everyone is familiar with the phrase “its not what you said, its how you said it”.
Has a lot to do with thinking before opening your mouth. You might have the intent of you message clear in your head, but if not said in the right way you can end up offending someone, alienating them or worse.
So when this type of thing happens in my little social circle, a lot of them turn to me for help and understanding. Recently, one person spoke in a very exclusionary way making it quite clear that the rest of us simply were not welcome. While it wasn’t a massive issue for those of us being excluded – as we had our own activities to go on with; just the tone of how it was said left a lot of us feeling a range of emotions from upset to downright pissed off.
It really does matter how you say it. The delivery conveys as much a message as the content.