Years ago, I had a one pen-pal and she just stopped writing after about six months. Can’t force someone to write. I don’t what happened.
Anyway, more recently and I guess since I’m approaching my 40th birthday it dawned on me that I actually have few friends. There is no one I can call up and just chat to, no one to meet up somewhere for coffee. I did have one friend once who I emailed frequently but email wasn’t her thing so it was very one sided and I’d get cryptic responses back. Its pretty sad. So I joined a pen-pal site and over a period of weeks had three pen-pals. The primary criteria was the preference for hand written letters via post with an aim of building a long term friendship.
Too much of the current social trends to getting bite sized chunks every few minutes via facebook or twitter or what not. A handwritten letter is intimate and personal. You have time to collect your thoughts and express them clearly and with great detail if you so choose.
One pen-pal wrote one letter, I replied and stopped. Ok and not a thing I can do. Another, we are going great guns, two letters each so far and lots to talk about. Last pen-pal I received her letter, my reply just needs sending but we have lots in common so will be heaps to talk about.
Have a couple of other people I know and we correspond via email and I’d love to change to hand written letters. I don’t how to progress from where I am now to “Can we be friends?” and exchange letters. I don’t want them to think I’m weird or anything. I just think friendships should be valued and treasured.